Love makes us do crazy things. Unfortunately, sometimes we love so much that our feelings overshadow reason, leading us to forgive someone who hurt us without caring about anything other than their own well-being.

Even though I don’t know you, it’s not my intention or desire for you to get hurt. So here are some things that will undoubtedly happen to you if you decide to forgive infidelity. Read them and keep them in mind if someone ever plays with your feelings.

You’ll let him know he’s worth more than you.

Infidelity is the lowest thing someone can do while in a relationship. Remember, beyond breaking your heart, that person is disrespecting you. Accepting them back into your life will send a clear message that you don’t consider yourself valuable enough to prioritize your own well-being.

Your self-confidence and self-esteem will hit rock bottom.

It’s a psychological effect. You won’t feel beautiful, your personality will change, and you’ll live in a gray zone, far from all your good qualities.

The next time he’s unfaithful, he’ll blame you (yes, even if it sounds illogical).

He’ll say, “It’s your fault for forgiving me the first time.”

He could give you a sexually transmitted infection.

Remember, if you found out he was unfaithful with another woman, it’s likely there were many others you didn’t know about. Imagine if one of them had an STI, and he unknowingly (or knowingly) passed it on to you.

You’ll live stressed, paranoid, and angry 24 hours a day.

You’ll spend your days thinking about someone who doesn’t deserve your time.

No matter how hard you try, you’ll never trust him again.

It will be impossible; there will always be doubt.

He’ll believe you’re waiting to take revenge on him.

One of the worst things is that he’ll think you forgave him just to get revenge and cheat on him. This will lead to a toxic relationship full of fear, misunderstandings, and problems.

You’ll start to believe you caused the infidelity.

Your mind plays tricks on you when you make the wrong decision.